Lara Bingle … is adult bullying ever ok?

Lara Bingle ... Most unlikeable woman in Australia?I’ve been dismayed and shocked by the vitriolic and hateful comments directed at Lara Bingle.

She may or may not have been aware that she was dating a married man and she may or may not have been out to wreck his marriage but this happened three years ago when she was a teenager. Since then she has been in a long term relationship and is engaged to be married.

It amazes me that ‘news’ about Lara Bingle is in the same newspapers as the article about a landmark court decision that allowed a young girl to successfully seek compensation for being bullied as a child? However, adult bullying is allowed to go on whether it’s bullying via the media, politicians bullying each other, workplace bullying or even bullying amongst our friends and family.

Lara is a 22 year old girl who has made mistakes and she thought she paid for them three years ago. When is the media going to stop their public scalping of Lara? Why don’t they just shave her head and march her down the street like they did with women who collaborated with the Nazis and be done with it?

I wonder what will satisfy the outraged public … until she has a public breakdown or physically harms herself? I cannot imagine any 22 year old being able to cope with the intensity of public outrage and abuse levelled at her over the last few weeks. Seemingly Michael Clarke is on the brink of breaking up with her and his captaincy is threatened by his relationship with her.

Perhaps because of Lara’s lack of commercial success, I don’t see her as a celebrity and therefore I feel more compassion for her as a fellow human being. She’s made some bad choices in life and whether through bad judgement or bad advice, she is still making them. It happens and she’ll look back and think she could have handle things differently.

Unfortunately, I don’t see how bullying by children will stop when they see so many examples of bullying by adults. It seems very fitting then that Lara has decided to give an “undisclosed amount” of the money she was paid for the interview to the White Ribbon Foundation, which has an anti-bullying program.

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5 comments:

  1. jen, 11 March 2010, 1:20 am

    i totally agree with you. I think lara is just absolutely stunning n believe most women hate her for that. But that scandel with brednan is ancient n every1s moved on except most probably brendon, that sleeze, cnt stand him. Everybody makes mistakes n this is no different, she was a kid for goodness sake. Its just sad that sum pervert had to publicly hurt her like this n bring the whole affair up again. ppl r hating on her for no real reason that i can actually see. I dnt blame her for freakn out n wanting michael home, its so embarrasing for any1 to b put in that position esp a 22yr old girl. I hope michael stays with her.

     
  2. Maria, 11 March 2010, 11:02 am

    I feel sorry for poor Lars. It was probably hard for Michael to cope with at the time and now it’s all dredged up again by the media. It’s hard to believe she would agree to this if it was leaked by her management company.

     
  3. Teri LaFlesh, 16 March 2010, 11:55 am

    You bring up excellent points here. How can we tell children that bullying is bad when it seems the media does it with much relish to celebrities? It is easy for us to stand in judgment of celebrities because they are in front of us, but most of them are probably as lost as anyone else. I know I’m a tad idealistic, but I do feel we, as adults, need to stop bullying other people who simply make mistakes in their lives, because otherwise, how do you tell a child it’s not okay to bully a classmate, while we are consuming media that bullies our peers?

     
  4. Sarah, 28 March 2010, 3:22 pm

    This is a very valid point. Bullying is so rampant in society. How do we educate our children when there are so many bullies in the workplace, in the media and the politicians are the worst lol. And they have the nerve to set down these ineffectual anti-bullying policies at school and wag their little finger at would-be bullies.

     
  5. Gifts, 6 May 2010, 7:03 am

    It was such a tawdry episode. The break up somehow validated the media scourge and left Bingle high and dry. Not model behaviour on the part of Clarke by any means – he certainly didn’t stand by his girl when the going got tough.

     

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